Do you have limiting beliefs? To understand what limiting beliefs are and how they affect your life, you first must understand the functions of the “belief system”. Beliefs are like your life’s “blueprint”, they are the main supporting structures to your life.
They are formed though your life’s experiences and recurring thoughts that you rendered as absolute truth about your world. All our beliefs are stored away within our subconscious, playing the main role in conditioning our thoughts, feelings, and actions.
For example, lets say that when you were a young child, while playing in the park you come across a cute dog that is being walked. As the dog come to pass you, it jumped at you and aggressively barking and bit you on your shorts. You then are dramatized and formed a “belief” that dogs are mean and vicious. As you grew older you never took time to change that belief, so it was still embedded within your subconscious. As an adult you find yourself not really a pet person especially not liking dogs.
You know that not all dogs are aggressive but for some reasons you are not comfortable being around them. This is because subconsciously every time you think about dogs you run your thoughts through your “belief system” to help get answers. And if you still have a belief that dogs are “mean and vicious”, then you will naturally generate unpleasant emotions associated with dogs, which condition you to stay away from them.
This is true when it comes to relationships also. If a child witnessed violence and distrust within their parents, he/she may accept beliefs that relationships are hard, violent, doesn’t last, or not trustworthy. These limiting beliefs about relationships may be buried within the child and affecting his/her relationships as they get older. We wonder why we can’t trust our love ones? And we always tend to find ourselves in destructive relationships. Not realizing that our limiting beliefs have a big role in conditioning our thoughts and feelings.
Limiting beliefs affect all aspects of our life; it affects the way we think about money, relationships, people, and everything that is important to us. Most people think how they view their world is really how reality is, but what they don’t realize is that it is just a reflection of all their “beliefs”. The life that we have is in direct proportion of all the beliefs that we have about our world. So to change your life, you MUST change your beliefs!
Some common “Limiting Beliefs”:
* working is a choir
* that’s impossible
* I’m not capable
* I’m too old for that
* that won’t work for me
“Limiting Beliefs” can cause:
* Low self-esteem and confidence
* Doubting Yourself
* judging yourself
* you to think that you are not good enough
* to blame others and circumstances for your situation
When you are free of Limiting Beliefs, you may experience:
* Greater control of your life
* More opportunities & synchronicity
* Space for creativity to flow through you
* Clarity about everyday decisions
* Happiness & Confidence
* Greater ability to focus
* And more..
Most limiting beliefs are hard to spot out because they operate within our subconscious and have been with us for a long time. However no matter how long you have had those beliefs, you can always eliminate them by identifying them and giving them new meanings that will serve you positively.
Eliminating all your limiting beliefs may require you to dig deep within and being truly honest with yourself.
3 Steps to Escape the “Choke Hold” from any Limiting Beliefs
Step 1: Desire
When I say desire I don’t mean, how you “desire” a pint of Hagan Dazs ice cream. I’m talking about that burning passionate WANT to improve your life! Take a few minutes to really look at your life, and be honest to yourself. Ask yourself, are there changes that you would like to make to improve your life? If the answer is yes, then make up your mind, and make it your passion for constant self-improvement.
Most people are comfortable in their old ways, and don’t want to change because they perceive it to be something negative. They may say they want to change but after the feeling of discomfort in their effort, they may run back to their old safe ways even if they were unhappy with their life.
If you learn how to harness the power of “desire” then you will have the spark that will light up any flame of burning desire for change. If it wasn’t for Lance Armstrong’s burning desire, he would have never won Tour de France seven times while being diagnosed with testicular cancer.
Step 2: Identification
Once you have made up your mind, and have the desire to change your limiting beliefs, the next step is identification. To change any limiting beliefs you must know that you have them, and specifically what they are. You can only change something when you identify with it. Once a belief is identified, it is in a neutral state which will give you the opportunity to give it new positive meanings.
For example, just like a computer program, it is run by many codes within the back-end, telling it what to do and how to react. If you didn’t like something about the programming and wanted different actions, then you would have to go to the back-end and look for that piece of code related to that unwanted action. Once you “identify” the code then you can give it a new “value” to generate new actions that you prefer.
Humans are no different, identify your limiting beliefs (codes), then give it new values and meanings. Most people can’t make real lasting changes within their lives because they don’t take time to analyze what are the causing limiting beliefs (codes). This process does require you to dig deep within and being truly honest with your self-evaluation.
If you notice yourself saying or thinking these statements, more likely you have those limiting beliefs.
life is hard
it’s just not possible
I’m set in my ways
life is a rat race
someday, I’ll ___________________
I can’t do that
I don’t have it in me
I’m not able to _____________________
that won’t work for me
I’m not motivated
I’m not passionate
I don’t have any interest
These are phrases and thinking that is caused by the choke hold from limiting beliefs. But how do we identify them?
Pay attention to the words and phrases you use on a daily basis when communicating with others. Be observant and write down any “limiting” or “negative” words or phrases that you use for later evaluation. In a relaxed environment with no distractions, go over the list that you have made. Closely examine the words and phrases that you use. Carefully think of your beliefs to help understand why you may have responded by using those words.
Then think of what you would have to believe that is “true” for you to use more positive words and phrases. Continue this process regularly to help reflect your progress. When you identify your “limiting beliefs” through words and phrases that you use, at that very moment you have “neutralized” it, and you then will have the opportunity to give it new positive meanings that would serve you.
Step 3: Disconnection
If you have already gotten this far the last step is easy!
If you understand our example of how a computer programming works then you will be able to relate how you can disconnect with your old limiting beliefs. Much like the computer’s programming, once the limiting belief (code) has been identify and given new positive meanings, you have disconnected yourself from that old limiting belief!
At that moment you are a new person! The problem that most people have, is that they always choose to bring back those limiting beliefs back into their lives. They don’t believe that changing their habits and beliefs can be that easy (this is another limiting belief) so they find ways to replay it in their heads and bring it back into their lives. Most limiting beliefs have been with people for many years and sometimes make up who they are, so it is sometimes difficult for them to let go that part of themselves.
If you find it hard to let go of certain limiting beliefs, then you may have other beliefs that are keeping you from your progress, so you must identify them and change them first. For example If you have beliefs like; “change is difficult”, “I’m too old to make any lasting changes”, or “this won’t work for me”. Then you must first analyze and change those limiting beliefs before you can move on. Changing your beliefs can change your life, and sometimes people are comfortable in their old ways and this may cause them to revert back to their old beliefs.
Changing any limiting beliefs can be instant, it could take one person five minutes, and another weeks or months. The tools and steps here are for anyone to change their limiting beliefs immediately, it’s really up to the individual to decide how long they want to hold on to their limiting beliefs and when they are ready to let it go. Once you decide to eliminate your limiting beliefs, you will realize how easy it is, and how your world can change so fast to reflect your new beliefs.
Now that you understand the steps to escape any “choke hold” from any limiting beliefs, have fun, and enjoy the process!
by Don T. Mai
Eliminate Limiting Beliefs Using the Lefkoe Method
You can also learn how to eliminate limiting beliefs by trying the Lefkoe Method. Morty Lefkoe is president and founder of The Lefkoe Institute. He is the creator of a series of psychological processes (The Lefkoe Method) that result in profound personal and organizational change, quickly and permanently.
The best part of the Lefkoe Method is that it is available online and you can try it for free.
It takes about 20 minutes to change a belief and you have the option to change any of the 3 most common limiting beliefs.
* I’m not good enough
* I’m not important
* Mistakes and failure are bad
For each limiting belief, Morty takes you through each steps in the video to help you identify and eliminate the belief.